- By Nisha Rana
May 29, 2024
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Category
Relationships
Have you ever come back home with questions in your head right after a date with your partner? Do you feel emotionless when you’re with your partner because all you feel is sadness, pain and emptiness?
While you have these questions popping into your mind, at the same time you’re trying to repair them because this relationship means a lot to you, but have you wondered if this relationship is equally important for your partner?
Maybe you are thinking of ending it but feeling guilty about it?
You’re not wrong to feel this way; there is something off, and your subconscious mind is coming to awareness. Feel no hesitation if you’re re-evaluating your relationship, before ending it.
We are here to help you make that decision, to help you make better decisions in your love life.
Here are the 5 signs that you should consider before dodging the bullet.
1. You’re Not “You” Anymore
If you feel alone while you’re with your partner or perhaps uncomfortable to be around them too often because of their behavior, this is a sign that you both are distant and are not heart to heart with each other anymore. The reason could be this relationship has changed you in such a bad way that you don’t like yourself anymore or enjoy doing things you used to love.
These unconventional changes make you uncomfortable or even this feels like you’re a projection of someone else’s needs and desires now.
You may experience distance from yourself, overthinking most of the time and dwelling into the time before the relationship.
If you feel this relationship has taken over your life, your mind, and your body. You should not think a hundred times before ending it.
Love feels different and if this is not adding any value instead it’s diminishing the significance of you. Definitely, it’s time to re-evaluate and find a way to balance everything.
2. Your Communication Goes Nowhere
The universe works in mysterious ways. The instant connection you felt was to bring you both closer and now it’s up to you both if you can give it a beautiful meaning. Communication works like a bridge to connect two people together. One end holds back, the energy flow stops and the bridge begins to lose its stability.
There is no way you can understand your partner well if they won’t speak or avoid talking to you, and gaslight you when you question their silence. Relationship is not about just being together, it’s also about sharing life and events together and when two are not comfortable talking to each other on a deeper level, or feel not interested in talking that is definitely a sign that the relationship is already dead and it exists only because you’re trying hard.
3. Long-term Relationship but lacks commitment
Commitment is meaningful to good women, when a relationship lacks that in the end only you get left with heartache and a lot of issues to work upon. When you’re in love, you want a commitment and start your life journey together in one home but if your partner doesn’t care about it, you tend to spend most of the time speculating about the future of the connection and how to fix it. A relationship that keeps you engaged in constant overthinking and questions, you should not continue further. It’s better to be single than being with someone who is not ready to take a leap of faith and commit.
He/she is a walking red flag. If you find them not interested in planning the future together, you should definitely talk to your partner and clear the air. If the outcome of the conversation doesn’t give you satisfaction, you should end it for good.
You deserve better, lack of commitment means no future together and staying in an unfulfilling relationship is a waste of your own time, you should rather value it by finding someone better.
4. You’re Thinking of Someone Else
Your relationship has reached the end of the road if you’re thinking of someone else when you’re already in a relationship with someone. If your feelings have changed over time, you should talk it out and for the betterment of your partner you should break-up instead of dragging the person in your messed up feelings.
There could be a number of reasons why you’re falling for someone else when in a relationship; your partner keeps you restricted, gives you bare minimum, there is no spark in between you two, etc.
What you were looking for in your partner is coming from this new person. You feel amazing or something unique with this other person. It doesn’t require too much effort to build a connection.
It’s definitely time to end things with a closure.
These are the signs that your current relationship is beyond repair and it has to end.
5. You’re Heartbroken All The Time
Compatibility, reciprocal love, trust, and communication is the pillar of any relationship, one of them breaks or loses strength, it’s just the matter of time that it would collapse one day. Before it takes both of you down with it, it’s best to act mature and take this excruciating step to end it and not force it in the hope that it can still work. It’s heartbreaking but it’s better than going through heartbreak every day.
Many marriages and perfect love stories ended because of this. You’ll find your “right one” and it won’t be too hard to keep the base of your relationship strong.
Everyone deserves happiness, that's the ultimate goal everyone wants to achieve. You shouldn’t let any meaningless attachments and feelings affect this goal, let go of what’s not serving you at all. A relationship that needs constant effort is not an ideal one, you can’t do it your whole life especially when you’re old. If you continue the same way, in later life you’ll end up with regrets, bitter feelings, resentment and zero love.
Find someone with whom you see yourself growing old and happy, and feel effortless constant love from this person.
